After deployment

http://www.afterdeployment.org/ 

I wanted to share this great site for military spouses who have no idea on how to deal with all the issues around deployments, pre during and post deployments. Deployment is over for him now and I’m thankful he is home safe, decompressing and readjusting to civilian life. It’s kind of unfair that  spouses don’t get much training or information on what to expect or how do deal with the many issues that come up around deployments. At least for reservist. I received one phone call every couple months from an office asking if I’d had contact with my loved one. I’d say “yes” and then that would be the end of the call. Very cold way of checking up on you. Maybe I’m venting or rambling. Doesn’t really matter. But what does matter to me is that if you are struggling… that you find help. Help won’t always come to you. That’s how I found this site. 

http://www.afterdeployment.org/ 

Great site for military spouses who have no idea or don’t get any training on how to deal with all the issues around deployments, pre and post deployments.

I also connected with another military girlfriend this week, one who’s boyfriend is deploying in a few weeks. I hope to get together with a small group of ladies in the next couple weeks so if you are looking for a support group as a military wife or girlfriend in the SF Bay Area please email me, or comment on this page and I will get back to you.

Love Rewards the Brave

“When you open yourself to living a life of gratitude instead of resentment and fear. It opens your heart to receive love and goodness. When your heart is full it overflows and can’t be contained. This leads to sharing your true essence and opens doors that were once closed. Gratitude, Love and Courage opens them.” – Maria Sanchez


Lead us to a place… the prayer

“Palomita de Paz”
RED Project #7

Sharing a beautiful song… The Prayer. I’m sure you’ve heard it before… although this 
version is sung by a child (Rhemma Marvanne)… so angelic. God bless those that mourn and those that are are afraid. My favorite verse “When shadows fill our day…Lead us to a placeGuide us with your graceGive us faith so we’ll be safe”.

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The Prayer (lyrics)
I pray you’ll be our eyes
 And watch us where we go
 And help us to be wise 
 In times when we don’t know
Let this be our prayer when we lose our way 
 Lead us to a place 
 Guide us with your grace 
To a place where we’ll be safe
La luce che tu daiI pray we’ll find your light 
Nel cuore resteràAnd hold it in our hearts
A ricordarci cheWhen stars go out each nightL’eterna stella sei
Nella mia preghiera 
Let this be our prayerQuanta fede c’è 
When shadows fill our day
Lead us to a place 
Guide us with your grace 
Give us faith so we’ll be safe
Sognamo un mondo senza più violenza 
 Un mondo di giustizia e di speranza 
Ognuno dia la mano al suo vicino 
 Simbolo di pace e di fraternità
La forza che ci dia 
We ask that life be kindÈ il desiderio che 
And watch us from above
Ognuno trovi amorWe hope each soul will find 
Intorno e dentro a sèAnother soul to love
Let this be our prayer
Just like every child
Need to find a place 
Guide us with your grace 
 Give us faith so we’ll be safe

In memory of the children

Matthew 19:14

Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, 
for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these.”
 
In memory of the children. 12/14/12 

I painted this piece “Ascension of the Innocents” a couple years ago after a dream I had. In that dream there were souls of children ascending to heaven carrying red balloons. I remember that at that time I was very fearful of death and I’d like to think that this dream came to me because it showed me that death was not something to be feared. That God in his mercy carries souls to heaven in the most peaceful of ways…. especially the souls of innocent children. We are all God’s children regardless of age… he loves us all just the same.

RED Project #6 Corazon (anatomical heart)

RED Project, #6
“Corazon”
size: 3×3 inches
mixed media: red and black ink and pencil on cardstock
My heart breaks after all that happened today. So sad. Praying for the children who lost their lives and those who mourn them. God help us as a society. This shooting is so senseless. I can’t wrap my head around it. All I can say is my heart hurts for those that are affected by this. We need to take care of our children as parents. I don’t know what was wrong with the  person that did this, but I have to believe that had he gotten help for his mental anguish and inner turmoil, this might have been avoided. Parents pay attention to your children and the signs that they let off. Seek mental help, counseling through you church, county mental health agencies, etc. These services won’t seek you out. You have to make an effort to find them. Here is a list of some sources for talking to children about violence and death. 

National Association of School Psychologists on Talking to Children About Violence
What I consider to be one of the best articles on talking to children about death (by Hospice)
Explaining the news to our kids from Common Sense Media.
*links borrowed from Brene Brown mailer today on the subject.