I am super woman! … not.

To all the fabulously brave military wives out there holding down the fort while their husbands are deployed. Be brave, be courageous and know that you are loved, valuable and strong. You can do this.

When things are falling apart, the kids need to be taxied, fed, the house cleaned and groceries done. The truth is with as many things as we try to juggle… things slip from our grasp and fall through the cracks. Some of us are superwomen in multi-tasking to keep every thing running straight and I tip my hat to those that can keep it all together.

I don’t know about you, but as much I’d like to think that I am a superwoman … truth is  I am human, I am frail, I am scared… but somehow know that it’s all gonna be fine. One day at a time and on some days one hour at a time.

So just sending out this note to the universe of ladies out there who are doing it, living the military esposa life. It doesn’t end even when they return home. You still hold down the fort, you still taxi kids, and buy groceries. Just remember to take care of yourself. After all you are good to no one if you can’t function. So take the time to rest, feed your soul, feed your body, find alone time to recharge.

I promise you this, the cape will be waiting …you can put it back on tomorrow.

I think of you at 2 a.m.

One of the hardest things for me while my husband was deployed was the sleepless nights full of anxiety and wishing he was home to hold me. I’d fall asleep to the sound of Anderson Cooper’s voice on TV and then wake up at 2am to the morning news just getting started on the East Coast. I lost a lot of sleep during the last 8 months, now that he is home. I am slowly getting back to sleeping through the night. It’s blessing to be able to roll over and he is there laying next to me. I’m so thankful but honestly now I kind of miss Anderson Cooper.

After deployment 

I wanted to share this great site for military spouses who have no idea on how to deal with all the issues around deployments, pre during and post deployments. Deployment is over for him now and I’m thankful he is home safe, decompressing and readjusting to civilian life. It’s kind of unfair that  spouses don’t get much training or information on what to expect or how do deal with the many issues that come up around deployments. At least for reservist. I received one phone call every couple months from an office asking if I’d had contact with my loved one. I’d say “yes” and then that would be the end of the call. Very cold way of checking up on you. Maybe I’m venting or rambling. Doesn’t really matter. But what does matter to me is that if you are struggling… that you find help. Help won’t always come to you. That’s how I found this site. 

Great site for military spouses who have no idea or don’t get any training on how to deal with all the issues around deployments, pre and post deployments.

I also connected with another military girlfriend this week, one who’s boyfriend is deploying in a few weeks. I hope to get together with a small group of ladies in the next couple weeks so if you are looking for a support group as a military wife or girlfriend in the SF Bay Area please email me, or comment on this page and I will get back to you.

Good Night Captain Mama! Pre-Order Book Tour and twitter party!

I want to share information on this new children’s book written by my friend Graciela Tiscareño-Sato, and Illustrated by Linda Lens. If you are military mama, this would be a great book to have and share with your children.Pre-Order Book tour and Twitter party takes place next week! See below for details.



Good Night Captain Mama is a bilingual picture book created for children between the ages of three and eight.

One evening, as a young child passes by his mother’s bedroom, he sees Mamá in her olive-green Air Force-issued flight suit. The child is curious about the colorful patches on the uniform and asks questions as he pulls each one off. His mother’s answers teach him, and young children everywhere, why women serve in uniform. [peek at illustrations here]

Pre-Order Book Tour Schedule 4/22-4/26

Mon 4/22 Condor Musings
Tues 4/23 Latino Book Examiner
Wed 4/24 OC Gente
Thurs 4/25 Latin Baby Book Club AND Mama XXI
Fri 4/26 Latina Lista AND New Latina

Twitter Party
Friday 4/26
Is Speaking in Spanish to Children Unpatriotic?

1PM Eastern/10AM Pacific
follow @condorbooktours and @gracetiscareno and use #captmama at tweetchat or your favorite group tweet platform

We will be discussing bilingual children’s books, and the controversy surrounding the author’s decision to include the Spanish language in this book depicting a military service member in uniform. Hope you’ll join us!

The purpose of this book tour is to encourage Pre-Orders of this book, which will be released in July 2013.

Pre-sales help this small, Latina-run publishing company PRINT IN THE USA, increase the print run, and helps to ensure the book is picked up by public and school libraries. When you Pre-order you save between $5 – $7 off print price, get your name included in the book as a supporter and have the option to have the book dedicated to a loved one. You can pre-order by using Paypal or U.S. Postal Service at Captain Mama’s website. Pre-order two (2) or more books and instantly receive a Patch as a gift!

This book tour is a Give-Away Tour!

Check out these beautiful patches (made in the U.S.) that can be yours for participating in this book tour!

Look for the Captain Mama post daily in participating blogs and leave a comment Saluting a woman you know who serves/served in the U.S. military and you will be entered to win a free copy of the book with a dedication of your choice!

Extra Gift: All Pre-orders of two or more books will automatically receive a patch!

Make sure you visit our blog, CONDOR MUSINGS to kick off the tour on Monday April 22nd with an audio interview with author Graciela Tiscareño-Sato & stay updated on the rest of the tour through our RSS feed or email notifications.

Bring a friend to our Facebook Page
post on our wall that you stopped by any day throughout the tour and
you and your friend will be entered to win a copy of the book!

My Lean In Story

I wanted to share with you all that my Lean In story was published on Sheryl Sandbergs community site. I’m excited that it was published and happy to bring awareness about being a military esposa. It’s not easy and every day is a struggle. With God’s help and with the love and support of family we overcome.  Thank you so much to those of you that have supported the BeBrave!Mujer!  website and Facebook page, as well as my Military Esposa blog.

Con mucho amor,

The Only Girl Among Boys: Letter To the War-Weary Wife

I’ve not been writing for this blog simply because I’ve been able to communicate and stay in touch with my sailor through other media. I thought at first that this would be something that he could read to keep up with us at home.   Unlike the first deployment we are lucky to have tools like facebook, skype and facetime. Technology has changed how we communicate and has definitely made it easier for military families to stay connected. There are times when I don’t hear from him but no where near the longer blackout times as in his previous deployment. For that I am thankful.

But today I was reminded that sharing my story of how I am doing, how I am coping is important. Important because there are so many other women facing deployments for the first time that need to be encouraged by those of us that have been there. We are community, a sisterhood like no other. I am proud to be part of it. 

I want to share a blog by Rebecca Yarros. Her experience encourages me and reminded me that as I go through this journey, my experience can be used to help others. So to any military spouse getting ready to face a deployment remember that you are not alone. Reach out to those that have been there before, we are here to help you and like Rebecca reminded us that have been through it before. We need to be there to help you. Thank you Rebecca Yarros for keeping it real. I am encouraged.

The Only Girl Among Boys: Letter To the War-Weary Wife